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7 ways to change your life in the next 7 days

Life change may seem to take years to achieve but there are steps you can walk today and in the next week that perhaps can change your life forever.

Most are little steps, but when combined together they can create big and lasting change.

Here are 7 ways to change your life in the next 7 days.

1. Change your words and phrases

One of the most effective ways to change your life is to change your attitude and mindset. And the best way to change your attitude and mindset is to remove certain words and phrases from your vocabulary and to replace them with others that are more positive.

It might take some time to remove negative phrases and words because you’ve gotten so used to them. But once you start using new words and phrases that are more positive, you’ll be surprised at how almost instantly people around you react differently and how you look at the world around you in a fresh way.

Your entire life changes without you having to change everything.

Here are some words and phrases to stop using:

- “It’s just one of those days.”

- “Same s**t, different day.”

- “Same old, same old.”

- “Pretty good.”

- “What’s the world coming to?”

- “Kids these days.”

- “I can’t.”

- “I don’t know.”

- “The good old days.” (Suggested by Lyved reader Tyler)

- Hate – It’s such a powerful word that has become too common in our vocabulary.

- Retarded – I don’t know why people insist on using this word to describe something they don’t like or understand.

- Gay (Requested by Lyved reader Max based on the same negative use as “retarded”)

For some ideas on what you can start saying to improve your life and make lasting, positive change, please read our article: 50 things to say before you die.

2. Count your blessings

We all get caught up and forget to reflect on how fortunate we are. So in the next 7 days take an hour and think about:

What you’re glad to have experienced – sometimes it’s good, sometimes it’s a bad experience, but it’s shaped who you are. For me, one thing I’m glad I experienced was poverty.

What you’re fortunate to have – family, food, shelter.

What you’re fortunate to not have – it could be sickness or debt.

3. Dust off your bucket list

Take out your list of things to do before you die and find something you can do in the next week. Or write something new down and do it.

4. Wake up claiming the Best. Day. Ever.

One day can positively change your entire life. And that one day needs to start with one good morning.

During the next 7 days wake up claiming that it will be the best day ever and try your hardest to maintain that attitude all day.

5. Try something you think you’re bad at

Perhaps you think you’re horrible at singing, writing, basketball, or some other talent. But perhaps you’ve just never really given yourself the time to attempt and if you do, you might find a new talent for yourself.

6. Declare your life’s purpose

It can certainly be done in a week with focus and a bit of work.

To help you, here are two articles you might be interested in reading:

5 easy pieces to piecing together your purpose in life

What do you want on your headstone?

7. Recognize change happens constantly

Every single day your life changes no matter what. Even if you go through the same routine over and over again, no two days are ever the same. Recognize this and even the days of adversity and pain will become bearable because you know that “good new days” lie ahead.


Cross posted from lyved.com

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Why Stress Yourself?

There are so many circumstances that individuals are faced with on a consistent daily basis that may cause stress.  Some of these stress factors, whether internal or external are challenges, difficulties and sometimes just unexpected situations that are due to our environment, jobs, relationships and our families.  Often, we may feel the pressures of these factors bombard us all at one time causing stress, anxiety and depression.  Stress is a known “silent killer.”  Stress has been a proven cause of heart attacks, aneurisms, ulcers and even fatalities.

In today’s economy individuals are stressing over unemployment as well as working jobs that require the labor of two people.  Being employed or unemployed can create a stressful environment, but we have to choose how to handle situations.  We, solely allow ourselves to become stressed.  I believe our attitude and how we respond to situations dictates the amount of stress we place upon ourselves.  So always try to keep a positive attitude about your situation or circumstance.  Don’t compound the problem with worry cause it only leads to stress and other illnesses. Remember, Nothing stays the same!

Bryant King

Career Connections & Prosperity Center North Coordinator

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Keeping Hope Alive

One of my greatest life lessons, to date, is learning that everything in our lives happen for a reason.  Upon my release from prison, I applied at more places than I could count, was turned down by many, and applied for more positions.  One employer, after being honest about my criminal record, offered me a position as a receptionist.  I was so excited and thought things were looking up.

Unfortunately, my enthusiasm was short lived.   I arrived early for my first day but was disheartened when the employer notified me that another employee in the organization did not feel comfortable with me in the office as I had been incarcerated.  My heart plummeted and my hope diminished.  The person apologized but ultimately the job was offered to someone else.   I had to take a moment, regroup, and begin my search anew.

When one door closes, another one opens.  After this obstacle, I secured employment at a transitional house, and began my 500 hours of community service hours at Goodwill Industries of NWNC.  Now 5 years later, I am working at Goodwill Industries assisting others with criminal records.
I look back to that moment and now want to thank that employer for not hiring me as I am now in a position that I love.

Tonja Fultz

Project Re-entry Employment Specialist

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Volunteer. It Makes a Difference.

What is a volunteer?  One definition is: one who does charitable or helpful work without receiving pay for it.

 Now, I’m not saying go empty your pockets for the sake of charity or spend every waking hour with the priority of volunteering. What I am saying is giving back feels great and looks good on paper. Volunteering can make difference in the lives of others and the return is immeasurable. How can you measure the smile on the elderly faces when someone comes to visit, or the look in a child’s eyes to know they are supported, what about when a family who is a little worse off than you receives something that will help them make it another day. The feeling is  wonderful and what you are doing is called human service.

From time to time I have the opportunity to review candidates for employment by perusing through a nice pile of resumes from eligible persons seeking employment. While doing so I consider what the organization stands for, our mission and vision. Overall, what we do in human services is make every attempt to help change the lives of those we serve. Imagine how it feels for me to see an eligible candidate who also has the passion to volunteer.   Now, I could be wrong but I think that Drive+Passion+Education is an awesome combination.

Volunteering can also help open doors, think about like this: as you give of yourself people see your hard work, dedication, and passion and those are the types of characteristics which make up great teams. So begin to seek out opportunities where you can volunteer, encourage others too as well, volunteer as a family or maybe take your next date to volunteer. Whatever you do just remember you are making a difference in the lives of others and you are growing a person.

Lakisha Grundy

eLink Youth Program Manager


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The Power of Questions

At the end of almost any interview you will be asked if you have any questions. Not asking questions or asking the wrong questions can knock you out of the running for a job.

In preparation for any interview you should research the company. This research not only gives you a base from which to formulate questions, but also helps you to know if you and the company are a potential “good fit”.  Be sure to have four to five questions that you can ask. You’ll want to ask a minimum of three strong questions and the interviewer may answer some of your questions without being asked, so have extras at the ready.

Remember that you are trying to start a professional relationship, and companies, just like people, like it when someone is interested in them. So make your questions about the company and how you can be an asset to them, not about what the company can do for you. DON’T ask when you can expect a raise, how many days off you get a year, or if you are going to have to work any overtime. DO ask questions that show you know about the company and how you can be an asset to what they are trying to accomplish.

“The last time I was on your website, I noticed that you expanded your sales approach to include the online market. What led to this decision and how have you seen it impacting in-store sales?” This type of question shows that you’ve researched the company and are interested in how decisions are made and on the outcome of those decisions. “From what you’ve said about your expectations for this position, which of my strengths do you see as most valuable in accomplishing those goals?”  This interview question makes the employer verbalize what is most important to them – great for using in your follow-up thank you letter!

One word of caution, do your research thoroughly. A question based on partial knowledge can turn around and bite you- and no one likes to be bitten!

Reni Geiger

Director of Grants & Career Connections

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The 60 Second Elevator Speech

The job search process has changed.  Networking is more important than ever.  One must be ready to go out to network.  My biggest rule on networking is to BE THERE.  You must be at functions and must be there mentally.  In order to have a successful networking session, you should:

a) have a goal and a plan

b) be ready to “practice” your plan

c) have a positive attitude.

The first part of your plan should be your 60-second elevator speech.  Who are you?  What do you do?  What is unique about you?  What are your special skills?  Where would you be at your best?
Now practice that on your friends and family…..I find that dogs make the best judges…they are so positive.  So if Rover likes the speech, you’re good to go!

Tempy Albright

Job Developer

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Charles Swindoll

The longer I live, the more I realize the impact of attitude on life.  Attitude to me is more important than facts.  It is more important than the past, than failures, than success, than what other people think or say or do.  It is more important than appearance, giftedness or skills. It will make or break a company…a church… a home.

The remarkable thing is we have a choice everyday the attitude we will embrace for that day.  We cannot change our past…we cannot change the inevitable.  The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude…I am convinced that life is 10 percent what happens to me and 90 percent how I react to it.  And so it is with all…we are in charge of our attitude.


•    Your thoughts (attitudes) and not the actual events create your feelings.  All experiences must be processed through your brain and given a conscious meaning before you experience any emotional response.

•    Only your thoughts can upset you, but if you learn to think more realistically you will feel less upset.


•    Face it; nothing is carved in stone, take control of your life.  Believe in yourself.

Remember: 10 two letter words
If it is to be,
It is up to me!

Tonja Fultz

Project Re-entry Employment Specialist

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