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7 ways to change your life in the next 7 days

Life change may seem to take years to achieve but there are steps you can walk today and in the next week that perhaps can change your life forever.

Most are little steps, but when combined together they can create big and lasting change.

Here are 7 ways to change your life in the next 7 days.

1. Change your words and phrases

One of the most effective ways to change your life is to change your attitude and mindset. And the best way to change your attitude and mindset is to remove certain words and phrases from your vocabulary and to replace them with others that are more positive.

It might take some time to remove negative phrases and words because you’ve gotten so used to them. But once you start using new words and phrases that are more positive, you’ll be surprised at how almost instantly people around you react differently and how you look at the world around you in a fresh way.

Your entire life changes without you having to change everything.

Here are some words and phrases to stop using:

- “It’s just one of those days.”

- “Same s**t, different day.”

- “Same old, same old.”

- “Pretty good.”

- “What’s the world coming to?”

- “Kids these days.”

- “I can’t.”

- “I don’t know.”

- “The good old days.” (Suggested by Lyved reader Tyler)

- Hate – It’s such a powerful word that has become too common in our vocabulary.

- Retarded – I don’t know why people insist on using this word to describe something they don’t like or understand.

- Gay (Requested by Lyved reader Max based on the same negative use as “retarded”)

For some ideas on what you can start saying to improve your life and make lasting, positive change, please read our article: 50 things to say before you die.

2. Count your blessings

We all get caught up and forget to reflect on how fortunate we are. So in the next 7 days take an hour and think about:

What you’re glad to have experienced – sometimes it’s good, sometimes it’s a bad experience, but it’s shaped who you are. For me, one thing I’m glad I experienced was poverty.

What you’re fortunate to have – family, food, shelter.

What you’re fortunate to not have – it could be sickness or debt.

3. Dust off your bucket list

Take out your list of things to do before you die and find something you can do in the next week. Or write something new down and do it.

4. Wake up claiming the Best. Day. Ever.

One day can positively change your entire life. And that one day needs to start with one good morning.

During the next 7 days wake up claiming that it will be the best day ever and try your hardest to maintain that attitude all day.

5. Try something you think you’re bad at

Perhaps you think you’re horrible at singing, writing, basketball, or some other talent. But perhaps you’ve just never really given yourself the time to attempt and if you do, you might find a new talent for yourself.

6. Declare your life’s purpose

It can certainly be done in a week with focus and a bit of work.

To help you, here are two articles you might be interested in reading:

5 easy pieces to piecing together your purpose in life

What do you want on your headstone?

7. Recognize change happens constantly

Every single day your life changes no matter what. Even if you go through the same routine over and over again, no two days are ever the same. Recognize this and even the days of adversity and pain will become bearable because you know that “good new days” lie ahead.


Cross posted from lyved.com

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Why Stress Yourself?

There are so many circumstances that individuals are faced with on a consistent daily basis that may cause stress.  Some of these stress factors, whether internal or external are challenges, difficulties and sometimes just unexpected situations that are due to our environment, jobs, relationships and our families.  Often, we may feel the pressures of these factors bombard us all at one time causing stress, anxiety and depression.  Stress is a known “silent killer.”  Stress has been a proven cause of heart attacks, aneurisms, ulcers and even fatalities.

In today’s economy individuals are stressing over unemployment as well as working jobs that require the labor of two people.  Being employed or unemployed can create a stressful environment, but we have to choose how to handle situations.  We, solely allow ourselves to become stressed.  I believe our attitude and how we respond to situations dictates the amount of stress we place upon ourselves.  So always try to keep a positive attitude about your situation or circumstance.  Don’t compound the problem with worry cause it only leads to stress and other illnesses. Remember, Nothing stays the same!

Bryant King

Career Connections & Prosperity Center North Coordinator

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Stress Free While Looking For A Job

Looking for a job in today’s economy is enough to stress anyone! If you’ve been laid off, and the bills keep coming, you are feeling like you want to pull your hair and disappear there are some things that you can do to stay mentally and physically healthy while you are looking.

Keep Breathing-
Looking for a job is stressful! When we are feeling stressed we tend to hold our breath subconsciously. A good first step to relieving stress is to take a deep breath and hold it for 3 seconds, and then release it slowly for 3 seconds. Do this three times. Soon you’ll feel more calm and ready for a productive job search.

Get Up-
It’s very easy to fall into the habit of sleeping in, staying home watching TV or playing games. Instead, get up at the same time you did when you were working. Shower, get ready, get a healthy breakfast and GO!!!. Do this every day because finding work is an every day job.

Something as simple as walking around the block can “clear your head,” and give you fresh start every day. It will also make you feel physically better, and it’s important that you keep your health up when you are searching for employment.

Set daily achievable goals-
Your ultimate goal is to get a job. But if you set small goals for yourself each day, you’ll have a better chance of reaching that final goal. For example, try sending at least 3 applications per day or sending out 5 resumes each day.

Stay involved-
Look for volunteer opportunities that are related to the jobs you are interested in. This helps in three ways. First, it gets you out of the house and interacting with other people. If you are used to working in an office atmosphere, being home alone all day can be incredibly stressful. Second, it is a great way to network and make contacts with people in the industry. And third, it gives you more experience — further strengthening your resume. This is important in today’s competitive economy.

Remember DO NOT STAY HOME, looking for work is can be a very difficult job so you need to keep yourself motivated. The unemployment benefits help alleviate the financial stress but do not last forever. The more applications you put out there, the better chance you have to find a job…and remember to visit our Career Centers we will help to make your life less stressful.

Mayra Rice

Career Connections Coordinator

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The Power of Questions

At the end of almost any interview you will be asked if you have any questions. Not asking questions or asking the wrong questions can knock you out of the running for a job.

In preparation for any interview you should research the company. This research not only gives you a base from which to formulate questions, but also helps you to know if you and the company are a potential “good fit”.  Be sure to have four to five questions that you can ask. You’ll want to ask a minimum of three strong questions and the interviewer may answer some of your questions without being asked, so have extras at the ready.

Remember that you are trying to start a professional relationship, and companies, just like people, like it when someone is interested in them. So make your questions about the company and how you can be an asset to them, not about what the company can do for you. DON’T ask when you can expect a raise, how many days off you get a year, or if you are going to have to work any overtime. DO ask questions that show you know about the company and how you can be an asset to what they are trying to accomplish.

“The last time I was on your website, I noticed that you expanded your sales approach to include the online market. What led to this decision and how have you seen it impacting in-store sales?” This type of question shows that you’ve researched the company and are interested in how decisions are made and on the outcome of those decisions. “From what you’ve said about your expectations for this position, which of my strengths do you see as most valuable in accomplishing those goals?”  This interview question makes the employer verbalize what is most important to them – great for using in your follow-up thank you letter!

One word of caution, do your research thoroughly. A question based on partial knowledge can turn around and bite you- and no one likes to be bitten!

Reni Geiger

Director of Grants & Career Connections

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Responding to an Inappropriate Interview Question

By now most people know they’re not supposed to ask questions about age, race, religion and whether a woman is planning to have children.  But beyond the illegal questions I’ve found clients sometimes confronted with the occasional inappropriate question.

These usually occur when the employer is a smaller one or a family-owned business.  In other words, larger, more structured companies typically operate in a more standardized setting.  But less structured interviews, particularly if they involve a lunch or supper meeting, can occasionally stray into question about public issues of the day.  I don’t necessarily think the employer is trying to catch the candidate as much as the inquiry is simply born of ignorance.

Politics and pop culture can be dangerous topics if not handled properly.  Imagine sitting there during the height of the Iraq War and being asked your view on President Bush and our nation’s strategy?  Or President Obama and healthcare?

On the one hand you’re thinking, “What does that have to do with my ability to do my job?”  And you’d be correct.  Yet, how should you handle that inquiry without appearing rattled, confrontational or evasive?  How can you convey that, well, it’s none of that person’s business without somewhat alienating the interviewer?

A simple technique I’ve found effective is to use a verbal cushion to acknowledge the question, but to then turn things around and ask the employer their thoughts on the subject.

For example, “I’m not sure there’s any easy answer on the war.  There are certainly passionate opinions on both sides.  I’m curious, Mr. Employer, what you think about it.”  And if the interviewer doesn’t respond, change the subject.  If they do respond while giving their opinion, at least you know whether what you might have said would have matched your with your potential employer.

If the employer responds, then further asks you your opinion, I think you’re within your rights to respectfully refuse to answer.  Try, “While we both know it’s a hot topic, I hope you’ll appreciate my desire to separate my personal views and interests from my work objectives.”  Be careful not to impugn the employer’s motives for asking or verbally slap their wrist too harshly.

Awkward, inappropriate or even illegal questions can easy rattle many candidates.  How calmly you respond under such circumstances could help separate you from your competition.

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Randy Wooden

The Wooden Group

As founder and president of The Wooden Group, Randy brings over 25 years of experience in a number of human resource areas including outplacement, career coaching, executive recruiting, in-house staffing and training. Additionally, Randy has served as a college adjunct instructor, teaching classes on interviewing and the overall job hunting process.

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Job Fair Survival

Kenny Beck from WXII-12 in Winston-Salem has some great timeless tips for job fair attendees that were broadcast before last year’s Goodwill of Northwest North Carolina’s Employment and Resource Fair.

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